The notion of “codependency” has been given lots of attention
in recent years. Countless books, articles, seminar workshops, college
courses, radio programs, and even sermons have been written
to help people get a handle on this new pop psychology buzzword.
But the term has become so prevalent, it is now difficult to find
two people who define it in exactly the same way. As Christian
counselors, we must take care to define and diagnose man’s problems
“not in words taught us by human wisdom but in words
taught by the Spirit, expressing spiritual truths in spiritual words”
(1 Cor. 2:13).
So what does the Bible call this not-so-new phenomenon?
Actually, there are several biblical words that describe it. In the
most general terms, the concept of codependency seems to best
fall under the biblical category of “idolatry” looking to someone
(or something) else to do for me those things that only God can
do. In terms of a type of person who is characterized by this particular
kind of behavior, “men-pleaser” is the more specific diagnosis....